You’re probably wondering why I’m giving you 10 reasons not to have a child. I have two. That’s exactly why I’m qualified to tell you 10 reasons NOT to have a child!
- Your bank account will thank you
- Child-free holidays
- Life is a series of never-ending questions
- They need constant entertaining
- You can be the cool aunt/uncle
- You need to feed them, everyday
- They’re not just for Christmas
- They will fight each other, constantly
- You’ll keep your identity and your name
- The world is overpopulated
1. Your bank account will thank you
Seriously. Kids are expensive, they need things. I’m not just talking about the basics liked food and maybe a bed (cosleepers rejoice!). B’s new glasses cost €160. Sure he needs them, but does he REALLY need them at that price?! The biggest dent to my bank account? Matching outfits. I can’t resist them, I’m extremely picky about what I dress the boys in. Which can often mean paying an arm and a leg for an outfit they will wear maybe once. It’s a weakness of mine, but can you really deny how cute they look?!
2. Child-free holidays
I love traveling, I’ve taken the boys to Italy, Spain, Germany, Czechia, France, Morocco & of course all around the UK. BUT travelling with kids, paying for 3 tickets, packing car seats (we use the mifold), planning meals & nap times cannot be compared to a child-free, stress-free holiday.
A family holiday is priceless. There is something about sharing your favourite lunch spot in Barcelona with your children. Or watching their faces light up as they experience the magic of Disneyland for the first time. Encouraging their inquisitive nature as we explore the souks of Marrakech.
3. Life is a series of never-ending questions
Why?* ‘Nuff said.
*Google/YouTube is your friend. You might even learn something yourself!
4. They need constant entertaining
Especially during lockdown with playdates off the table, you actually need to entertain them yourself. Netflix can only cover so much, being invited into their imaginary worlds is a privilege. However, I personally have had enough of their pre-bedtime ‘shows’ which seem to involve a wailing banshee and bucking Pokemon. They often end by me being held ransom until I ‘pay up’ with REAL money for watching a show that I didn’t want to watch in the first place.
5. You can be the cool aunt/uncle
I love other peoples kids, I can play with them, spoil them and then hand them back.
6. You need to feed them, everyday
Yes, everyday, At least 3 times a day, if you don’t included snacks. More if your kids have appetites like mine. If you can’t work out why that’s NOT a good thing, refer to Reason No. 1.
7. They’re not just for Christmas
They are human beings who will grow up to become adults. They will either be adults who contribute positively to society and their local community, or they won’t. If you’re not prepared to put in the work (emotionally, financially etc.) that it takes to raise a child, then you probably shouldn’t have children.
8. They will fight each other, constantly
But when they make up and play together your heart will melt.
9. You’ll keep your identity and your name
There’s nothing I hate more than being referred to as B’s mum or W’s mum. I have a name, my own likes and interests. I have an identity that isn’t just ‘their mum’!
10. The world is overpopulated
So this is my super super serious reason NOT to have children. In fact it’s one of the reasons (apart from being single) I won’t be having anymore children. The world is overpopulated, children in ‘developed’ countries have a much larger carbon footprint than children from other countries. I tried to do my part with breastfeeding, cloth nappies, eco-friendly cleaning products & making my own baby food. BUT it can’t be denied more and more people are choosing to go child-free for the environment.
BONUS: One Reason You SHOULD Have A Child
Because you want one. Don’t have a child if you don’t want to or because you feel pressured. Have a child IF you are ready and take the 10 things I mentioned above. Children can be an enjoyable experience but they come with a lot of stress, financial and mental strain. If that’s not for you, then don’t do it.