What a week 2021 has been! Just when you think things are going smoothly all hell breaks loose and everything has changed before you can even say “Happy New Year!”. In true 2021 fashion, this blog was meant to be something completely different to what it is now. I was originally going to write (type?) about our education planning for the new academic year to ensure a healthy and active childhood – did you know children should be outside for at least 3 hours a day? But life with kids never quite works out as planned.
If you read last week’s post, you’ll remember I said it’s important to ask yourself who the goals are really for. Well, I’m not ashamed to admit that the activity in this post is all about making my life easier! If you didn’t read last week’s post, read it here now:
Unfortunately for us 2020 frustrations have spilled over into fraught sibling rivalry these past few days and our regular conversations just aren’t doing the trick. I’m hoping that with the boys returning to co-op this week, they’ll get a much needed break from eaach other and I will get a much needed break from playing therapist/referee! However, I can’t wait that long! So, I decided to sit down with both of them and ask them how I could actually help and do you know what they said?
“Mum sometimes you tell us to behave, but we are behaving and we don’t understand what you mean.”B (6) – 11/01/2021
Admist the stress of the pandemic and everything else that has been going on, I had forgotten to use situation specific language BUT with everything that’s going AND the type of adults I’d like them to grow into, I also want them to want to behave nicely to each other and to the best they can do for themselves (hello intrinsic motivation). So all home education plans for the afternoon went out of the window, and we made vision boards! The perfect solution for my visual/kinaesthetic learners.
If you don’t know what a vision board is, you can find out here.
Ask the important questions
While I love to let the boys loose when it comes to arts and crafts, a vision board has a specific goal in mind and without a clear plan they can tend to get a little lost and overwhelmed. So, we thought of 6 questions to help form a rough guide:
- Who do you love and want to be around?
- What would you like to get better at?
- What would your ideal day look like?
- What are your star qualities?*
- What do you want to be when you grow up?
- If there was one thing you could have or do, what would it be?
Unsurprisingly they both realised that they love and want to be around each other, and they also both said that the one thing they would love to do would be to travel to China (B) or Japan (W) one day.
*What are your star qualities?
Last week, B and I started talking about star qualities. He really struggles with expressing his emotions appropriately, but I never want him to think that makes him a ‘bad person’. We wrote out a list of his start qualities, that I’m sure anybody who knows him in real life would agree with: kind, funny, friendly, generous, responsible and strong. He suggested including star qualities as one of our six questions today and was so excited to explain what they are to W. He even gave W some suggestions as to what he thinks is a star quality W has – supportive, because “he encourages me to believe in myself”.
You can find the resources we used last week here:
All that was left to do was to gather materials from our magazines and the internet. They both chose the photo below to illustrate how much they love each other. They really enjoyed writing their star qualities and searching for images that meant something to their vision. You can see their finished vision boards on our Instagram.
They decided to put their vision boards in their bedroom so they can look at them every morning when they wake up, and every evening before they go to bed.
If you make a vision board, we would love to see it – feel free to tag us on Instagram!